Dear child..

11 10 2011

As I walk over the wet sands today.. it all comes back to me.. those wonderful morning walks that we had together.. discussing subjects of common interest.. admiring the rising sun flooding everything around us with its golden red gleaming light..

how we used to run till we were outta breath trying our best to outrun each other and end up laughing.. how we used to forget everything around us and watch the endless waves sitting on the rocks.. how you used to shake me awake on the cold January mornings and pull me to along for the jog..

how much I miss you today is just inexplicable.. you are not around to push me outta bed.. not here to crack jokes when I’m angry.. not here to fight with me for the TV remote..  not here to jump and grab my supper and taste it just to see if there was anything special in mine that was not in yours…

it’s a pain to see you each day.. talk to you.. but not be able to feel your physical presence around me.. it’s a pain when I’m not able to shout out to you just for you to come and turn on the fan for me.. it’s a pain that I’m being constrained to one spot to see you and talk.. lest I’ll move out of your frame… an inexplicable pain for every mom and dad.. whose daughter or son is  not in the same place as they are, either studying or working or married…

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Getting over and healing yourself…

9 08 2011

Here.. i’m gonna elaborate on how to mentally heal yourself and get over things.. please note this is strictly not like this: you scrape your knee in a grave way.. put your palm over it.. and say “heal thy self”.. and the wound vanishes leaving the place spotlessly clean.. this is not that..! this post will say.. how you can heal your way out of being depressed.. or something similar..

OK so here is you sitting in a corner.. your feeling very sad.. say maybe because you fought with your mommy for a very silly reason.. (I chose this because I’ve done it many times and felt like killing myself for the same). OK lets state the reason.. mommy has had a very rough day.. she was not able to get her work finished despite slogging for the whole day with the corporation having shut down the power in peak summer. you have also had a tiresome day in college since the College day practice is neck breaking and you have loads of class room notes to complete. you come back home and feel desperate to have some fries.. you want mamma do make some fries.. she turns you down saying there is a power shut down and that she is very tired.. you also give in and ask for a cup of juice.. she makes the juice and hands it to you.. and while handing it, it slips from your hand and the juice spills on the entire floor attracting ants and flies.. mommy goes into a rage and screams at you to get out of the room and start with the notes.. you stamp on the ground in anger and leave the room fighting back tears since it wasn’t intentional from your end.. mamma is angry for adding work to her already burdened shoulder when the guests are expected to come in about an hour.. she totally dint want to scream at you.. but it just happened in the spur of the moment.

what will be your thoughts now: why cant mamma just understand that it wasn’t my fault.. i thought she had still not handed it to me and she was holding it..what the HELL…??!!??!! after all juice.. and i asked sorry also.. still she wants to scream at me.. God knows what pleasure she gets from it Damn it…!

mamma’s thoughts:  can’t she look at me when i’m giving the juice to her.. i don’t understand what was so important in the mobile phone which couldn’t wait for a minute till she took the juice in her hands. but poor thing she was already hungry and i refused her fries.. and screamed for spilling the juice.. poor girl i’ll make the fries and patch up with her..

mamma goes and makes the fries (99 percent of the time this does happen) and goes to the daughter.. now it is up to us to give in and talk to her and smile.. our tender smile means a LOT to our parents..! just imagine how much it would hurt her when she comes to where you are sitting angrily staring at the books not able to concentrate with the fries and you turn away refusing to talk to her just because she asked you to get out 🙂 we were brought into this world by our mommy and she is our first and best ever friend.. this thing called maturity comes in here.. just by smiling, taking one of those fries and shoveling it into her mouth will bring so much happiness to her and she’l end up making all your favorite dishes for dinner who knows 🙂

this process is called getting over things and healing yourself mentally.. there by you give up on what is disturbing you.. that is where the key is.. only if you let go of something, you can grab another.. if your hands are filled already, where will there be place for new things? similarly, fill your mind with things that will make you smile.. let go of those sad things that frustrate you.. let go of grudges.. bring in gratitude.. healing yourself lies here.. its a choice you make.. you can choose to get out and wash yourself or remain in the slush and get dirtier. how long will it take to just turn around and call your friend and tell her what she did was not right and that you dint like it.. and just letting go? or think about someone who snatched away your opportunity of say going abroad from the project? i know how depressing that would be.. maybe it is not time for you to go yet MAYBE.. but if you just let go saying i WILL get a better opportunity and sincerely work towards it.. i’m  sure you’l end up way better…!!

try it 🙂 it works with almost anything…! it just lies in how we tell ourselves “chal kake.. its not a happy ending, so picture baki hai dosth” may be take a refreshing break at the spa or get in touch with an old friend.. getting over and healing yourself lies in whether we choose to hold on.. or let go , visualize and believe that something better is in store and work towards materializing it.. i’m sure no one can stop what we want from reaching us then…!





An old story – with twisted side scribbles

8 07 2011

A father had 3 daughters all of whom he loved very much.. (yenga veetukku vanga.. yen kitta moonu ponnu irukku.. palagi parunga.. pudicha kattikonga illana friends-a iruppom)

on one fine day, he wanted to check whom of the three had better sense of judgement. so he ended up asking them a question. (kelvi kekkuradhu romba easy.. badhil konjam solli parunga.. appo than adhoda kashtam puriyum)

question: (background score – kalyana samayal sadham..kaigarigalum pramadham)

which is the most important thing in a wedding meal (idhellam oru kelvi nu kekkuraru..! shabba)

daughter 1: (kanna laddu thinna aasayaaaa)

Sweets that we serve at dessert.. applause… father is in all smiles.. (yo modhalla soru podunga ya.. appuram sweet sapdalam)

daughter 2: (saami soru saami soru)

the variety of dishes served in the main course.. father is in smiles again.. great answer he says… (sollitanga ba)

daughter 3: (uppitta tamil mannai naan marakka maten…)

“salt” — pause… everyone is watching her in silence.. what a dumb answer, will anyone serve salt in a meal? after a second, the daughter continued.. it gives flavor to everything that is served…! (idhu pudhusa irukke…?)

Father was surprised at the level of thinking of the third daughter. and from then on, she became his favorite among the three and they lived happily ever after..! (feeeeelingss.. )








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